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Here are a couple of stories that didn't make the
news today. Outside Baltimore, a woman visiting a
cancer-stricken friend noticed that the sick lady's
sheets hadn't been changed nor her bathroom cleaned —
perhaps in months. Ducking out for some fresh linens and
cleaning supplies, the visitor returned to strip the bed
and scrub the tub.
Here in Vermont, a woman got
up in pre-dawn light to drive a disabled woman to and
from a doctor's appointment 20 miles away. A few days
before, the driver had done the same for an elderly
woman needing medical treatment a few miles from home.
Although "neighbors" in the geographic sense, the driver
and her two passengers had never before
met.
These stories didn't make the news, largely
because they involved no pop stars shaving their heads.
No highly paid athletes on the police blotter. No
"Headless Body in a Topless Bar," as a classic tabloid
headline once screamed. And no paparazzi recording the
scenes.
These are, instead, just a couple of
those moments that have been reduced to that
bumper-sticker banality — "random acts of
kindness."
Nice idea. But in truth, these
kindnesses were not remotely random. Each of them stands
as the completely calculated act of a good
neighbor.
In the case of the Vermonter shuttling
a couple of once-strangers-now-neighbors to their
medical appointments, the action was anything but a
momentary impulse. It lay at the heart of a carefully
coordinated plan by Neighbor to Neighbor, a small
nonprofit group based in Manchester Center. With about
70 volunteers helping more than 100 mostly elderly care
recipients, Neighbor to Neighbor belongs to a nationwide
network of community-based efforts called Faith in
Action, funded in part by the Robert Wood Johnson
Foundation. The nation's largest philanthropy devoted to
health care issues, this foundation has, since 1993,
helped hundreds of local community groups who are
reaching out to neighbors in need.
With its image
of Bible-thumping "do-gooders" offering soup bowls to
the hungry after they sit through a sermon, the notion
of "Faith in Action" may put some people off. But the
effort is deliberately secular. While Faith in Action
relies upon local houses of worship, one of the building
blocks of its model is, "Do not proselytize." For the
neighbor in need, there's no "catch." No tracts,
confessions, pledges to make or services to attend. Just
simple acts of consideration, undertaken in the course
of an ordinary day, with the goal of caring for
neighbors, often with long-term health needs.
For
many of these groups — like Vermont's Neighbor to
Neighbor — these acts are often small and seemingly
mundane: picking up groceries, providing a lift to the
doctor, reading, and, perhaps most importantly, just
talking and listening. In another corner of Vermont, it
means winterizing homes in the face of dizzying fuel
bills.
Unlike the slick speech-writing that has
given us such facile phrases as, "1,000 points of light"
or "compassionate conservative," Neighbor to Neighbor
and other Faith in Action groups truly walk the walk.
Their deliberate acts of kindness and sensible acts of
decency won't nudge Wall Street's stock tickers. They
won't make the cover of People.
But the
difference they make in the lives of ordinary people in
need speaks to what one Hebrew prophet admonished
thousands of years ago — "to love justice and do mercy."
Or what Jesus told his followers was among the essential
commandments: "Love your neighbor as
yourself."
Or, in the simple words of a modern
sage, "It's a beautiful day in the neighborhood," Fred
Rogers reminded us. "Please won't you be my
neighbor?"
Kenneth C. Davis of Dorset is the
author of "Don't Know Much About the
Bible."
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